The Only Reason You Can't Reach Your Goals

What do the following statements have in common?

I'm not good enough! I can't do anything right! I'll never reach my goals!

Answer: These are the things you must say to yourself to create a negative self-image, which ruins your chances of success.

Okay, so what's wrong with blowing off a little steam? And what is this thing called the self-image?

Lets start with the meaning of self-image. According to, your self-image is "the idea, conception, or mental image [you have] of [yourself]."

This means that your self-image is not based on reality; it comes from your imagination.

Lets look at one case of the self-image at work:

Do you know who Arnold Schwarzenegger is? If not, he is arguably one of the best body builders in the world. Ever! 

Arnold Schwarzenneger

Arnold Schwarzenneger

Mike Larkin wrote an article for that reveals how Arnold was never happy with his body. Larkin goes on to say that Arnold would literally walk off the stage, after winning the Mr. Olympia (this is a competition with the best bodybuilders in the world), and say to himself, "How did this pile of shit win?"

Huh? Really?

This is a clear example of the self-image at work.

People regard Arnold as having the ideal body; yet, Arnold would disagree. 

How does that happen?

Well, it's simple. You just have to tell yourself over and over again that you are, as Arnold puts it, "...a pile of shit."

Here is one lesson for you:

Your self-image is gullible.

You tell it, "You suck," and your self-image says, "Yes sir!" Say, "You're a pile of shit," and your self-image is like, "Okay."

Think about the negative things you tell yourself. How often do you convince yourself you are incapable of accomplishing your goals?

Ever hear someone say, "Get out of your own way," or "You are your own worst enemy"?

They're right!

You see, if you really want to succeed and conquer your goals, you must take care of your self-image, because it holds the key to your success. 

Think of it this way, you are in control of your self-image in the same way that a computer programmer writes the code to tell software what to do. Except that you write the code that tells your self-image what to think. 

Let me make it clear, you can accomplish your goals. I repeat, YOU CAN accomplish your goals.

All you need is the right plan to develop a positive self-image. Once you do that, you will be able to accomplish any of your goals. 

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How To Overcome Your Struggles And Achieve Your Goals

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I have one question for you: How does a baby go from crawling to walking?

The answer is through change.

If there is one thing that I want you to remember, it’s that change is a process.

Do me a favor and put one finger in your ear.

Really. Put one finger in your ear.

Now say out loud, “CHANGE IS A PROCESS!”

Note: I had you do that because I didn’t want that to go into one ear and out the other.

Now, back to the baby. For a baby to go from crawling to walking, they must go through change, which—don’t forget—is a process. Change takes time. It takes energy. It takes practice. Oh, and don’t forget the mistakes; there are a lot of those too. 

Imagine you have a baby that wants to learn to walk. How long would you give it? One day? One week? One month?

You are probably saying to yourself, “Umm... are you crazy! I’ll give them as long as it takes!”

Isn’t it funny that you would give a baby all the time in the world to learn to walk? Yet, when it comes to you and your goals, you suddenly have a timer in your hands.

For instance, say you want to lose weight. You are all excited and inspired after watching a motivational video and you say, “Damn it, this time I am going to lose weight! Just watch and see!” But 3 days later, your motivation is gone, you're tired, and you end up quitting. You feel absolutely hopeless. You say to yourself, “I’m a loser. I failed again.”

Even though you don’t want to give up, you do. What happened?

You see, there is a part of your brain that houses your thoughts. These thoughts get in the way of your goals.

You know, the little voice in your head that says, “Really. You think you can lose weight. C’mon, we’ve done this before. It’s not going to happen."

Babies don’t let their thoughts get in the way. They don’t care how long it takes to go from crawling to walking. Babies are focused on learning to walk. If you were a fly on the wall in the babies brain (I know that sounds weird, but humor me) you’d only see a picture of a baby walking.

That’s right. The baby has one thing on its mind: walking.

As for you, rather than focusing on how to lose weight, you focus on other things like, “Why you're not losing weight,” or “Why you keep eating pizza?”

That’s the problem. You're too skeptical!

It’s not about getting motivated and inspired. You can go to YouTube, watch an inspirational video, and feel like you could lift a million pounds. But that means nothing if you don’t have a game plan for yourself.

You need to learn how to master your thoughts. You need to master your mind.

Guess what? You need a strategy. You need a roadmap. YOU NEED A GAME PLAN.

Otherwise, your mind will develop its own plan. You know, the why-are-you-so-fat voice in your head that causes you to quit.

Do me a favor and put a finger in your ear again: YOU NEED A GAME PLAN.

You need to learn how to get over the change-is-a-process hurdle so that you can go from crawling to walking. You need to learn how to discipline yourself to take action; how to handle mistakes; how to embrace failure; and most importantly: HOW TO GET RESULTS!

Why? Because those are the things you will need when you're in between the stages of crawling and walking.

So, the next time you start to struggle, remember: change is a process. 

I hope I gave you enough to think about. 

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Let me know what happens to you during the change process that stops you from achieving your goals. What are some things you say to yourself when you start to struggle? Also, what is one thing you wish you had to help you succeed?

Do you have a rich mind or a poor mind?


What would you do if you won the lotto? Would you keep working or quit your job? Would you buy a big house? A fancy car? Buy expensive jewelry?

If you happen to get your hands on a lot of money, you'd better hope to get rich fast; and, no, I'm not talking about getting more money. I'm talking about getting a rich mind. Why? Because you'll never get rich and stay rich with a poor mind. 

For instance, in 2009, Sports Illustrated did a study on NBA and NFL football players and found shocking statistics: 78% of NFL players and 60% of NBA players GO BROKE! They have millions of dollars and they go broke! How the heck do you make millions of dollars and go broke! 

It's simple, they got rich without developing a rich mind.

Ever heard of the boxer Mike Tyson? He made over $500 million and he went broke. How about Antoine Walker, a former NBA all-star player who made over $100 million, only to wind up selling his championship ring because of bankruptcy? Ouch!

More money does not guarantee success. It only allows your poor mind to make very expensive mistakes.

Did you know that rich minds invest their money in things that make them more money, while poor minds spend it on things that take their money? Rich minds invest in properties, and poor minds buy expensive cars. Rich minds own businesses, poor minds buy expensive jewelry. 

I once heard that if you were to take all of the money in the world and divided it evenly among everybody, the money would end up back in the hands of the rich people. 

Why is that? Poor minds spend their money on things that make the rich minds more money. For example, lets say a rich mind invested money into owning a business that sells TVs. Meanwhile, the poor mind is at this store, ready to buy the newest, biggest, thinnest, and most expensive TV available. The poor mind buys the TV, placing the money back into the hands of the rich mind. The rich mind takes this money and reinvests it into buying more TVs for more poor minded people to buy.

Ever heard of the saying, the rich get richer while the poor get poorer? It's because rich minds invest while poor minds spend.

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